Yeah, I am slacking on the 30 Day Blog Challenge! Things are busy for me! I will catch up but I wanted to share a story that just happened to me. A few weeks ago, during my blog stalking, I was just randomly surfing different stranger's blogs and I saw someone who said that they actually LOVED the show "Sister Wives" and I was completely appalled. How could someone actually watch and condone that lifestyle? A lifestyle that is centered around patriarchy and allows young children to be essentially raped and abused and just.... ugh, that whole thing seemed so fanatical, disgusting and disturbing.
Then, I actually ended up watching the first episode of "Sister Wives" and during the first few minutes I was totally judgmental and disgusted and then by the end of the episode my heart sort of softened towards this family. Well, let me clarify, my heart softened towards the women - the "wives" and their children. I think the husband is a total tool, a bit of a douche and kinda creepy (he actually reminds me of harry from dumb and dumber) . Now, I know this is a TV show and it's edited and mixed together to present the family in a certain light but what I saw during this episode was NOT at all what my prejudiced view of polygamy had previously been. This is NOT the Warren Jeff's child slavery, abusive cult of polygamy. This is a man with three wives that choose to live and cohabitate together and create a family.
I am a firm believer and supporter of equal rights for gay marriage and marriage equality. I believe that a family is not just a family because there is a mom and a dad, or because the parents and children share the same blood and genes. I believe that LOVE is what makes a family. Whether you are adopted, you are gay, your parents are gay, you are a single mom, you HAVE a single Mom, single dad, whatever the case may be, I believe a family is a family because the people involved share LOVE and are comitted to EACH OTHER. Personally, I have the family that I was born in to and I also have family that has "adopted" me into their own. I love each of them and am committed to them. SO I guess my point with all of this is, if gay people want to be married and have families, I believe they have the right to do so and if polygamists choose to live their lives co-habitating with other women and children (so long as the women and children are not being sexually abused) then why not?
I am, by no means, saying that LGBT's and polygamists are the same. I am just saying that I had my perspective broadened and was enlightened to a different type of lifestyle that I had previously unfairly judged.
That is all.
Oh, also, I tend to hate crazy Utah names that are "unique" and "creatively spelled" so I rolled my eyes at most of the kid's names but by the end of the episode, I actually kinda liked the name Mckelti.... has a certain ring to it.